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What Do You Want In A Relationship? (1)

I have never failed to ask this question whenever I am speaking to singles on relationship matters. I have come to the realisation that many people, especially women, go into relationships either for the wrong reasons or no reason at all.

A good number of ladies go into relationships just because their friends are into it and so they should play along. Others go into it because their body calls for it and this is natural. But it is only a few out there who go into relationships with the opposite sex for the right reasons.

In this article, I am talking about relationship with the opposite sex and not homosexuality. Beside the fact that you got attracted to each other, shared common interest, and fell in love with each other, what really are your goals for the relationship? It is always important to be open and share your expectations with your partner once that stage of infatuation and falling in love is over.

This is one thing that is lacking in the lives of Nigerian ladies. We all want to be and act civilized, but we are still living in the past. A good number of us are shy to open up and say what we have in our minds because we don’t want to be seen as one of those desperate girls. I don’t think you should bother so much about people talking or that guy seeing you as one desperado just because you open up on your expectations.

I know you are too afraid and extremely careful not to lose him again. But girl, if you don’t talk about these things now, they will come back to hunt your future. I believe any lady who really understands herself and her worth should be able to let a man know whatever she has in her mind. A lot of us are in relationships with people thinking and believing we are very happy, but deep within us we know we are not. You are in that relationship, but you still have your eyes out there looking for a better deal. Why the deceit and pretence? Isn’t it better you call it a quit since you have seen it as not working?

I know there are times compromise becomes necessary, but there are also issues that need no compromise. Though it is important to understand your partner’s expectations and goals, it is more important to keep in touch and always have in mind what you really want from the relationship. Losing your direction can cause you to stay in a relationship even if it no longer fulfils your needs and desires.

Women keep lamenting of men treating them as rags in their relationships. The problem is not from the man; you are your own problem. I have been there and I know what I am talking about. Nigerian women, especially women from the eastern part, are brought up to believe that all a woman needs in life is marriage to a wealthy man. This is why you see young girls getting married while in junior secondary school and the parents are there rejoicing over her. What do you expect from that kind of relationship? She gets married to a man in Onitsha Market or Idumota just because he has some cash to throw around. The life of this girl comes to a halt as she becomes the baby making factory she was created to be and possibly end up inside the market. At such a tender age, does that girl have any expectation from her relationship?

Linda Hogan speaks out on the 'Today Show'. : Top Socialite

Linda Hogan spoke to Matt Lauer on the ‘Today Show’ on Tuesday and told Lauer that she often feared for her life when she was married to Hulk Hogan. Linda and Hulk were together for nearly 25 years.

Linda has a new book out that she is currently promoting called ‘Wrestling the Hulk: My Life Against the Ropes’. In the book she writes that Hulk “tore my shirt. He threw lamps. He held me down on the bed with his hands around my throat during arguments, slamming doors, pounding walls. I was always afraid he would kill me in one of his rages.”

Linda went on to say that Hulk “did not feel remorse. And to this day he hasn’t apologized for any of his actions.”

Linda went on to say that she never turned him to authorities. She went on to say, ” Had I said something, the carpet would have been pulled out from underneath his career. … It’s scary. You don’t know how far they will go.”

Linda says 10 years into their marriage, she found out that Hulk was having an affair. She went on to say that she thought drugs were a factor into his behavior. She added, “The drugs were always around,” and that there was a “constant flow of pain pills.”

The two had a very public divorce in 2007. She told Lauer, “There are a lot of women out there in the world that are going through the same thing that I went to. if they can learn something from what I wrote, I hope I can help people.”

Hulk is not sitting by without making comments to his ex-wife’s new book and comments. He called into a radio show and said Linda’s remarks were “delusional” and that the abuse talk was “a cold, blatant lie.

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